sigelphoenix

"On a serious note, when I'm having low self esteem times and I notice I'm doing things to get external validation (especially sexualized validation), I do a little self check in to make sure I actually want to do the thing. Also, while positive external attention can be a nice little ego boost, it can not create self esteem or security. Those, by nature, have to come from inside.

Also also, while I have had friends have ask to feel my chest, and I have said yes, it did not heal either of us of anything. If the wound to your soul can be fixed via a boob grab, then it must have been more of a soul papercut."

Yes, yes, yes. I cannot say it enough. This ties into so many things I believe about women's (lack of) self-esteem and its connection to the objectification of women's bodies. It's just ... yes.

(If you want context, you may follow the link and figure it out. Myself, I don't want to give the dipshit author of the original post in question any extra publicity. On the other hand, this sparkymonster person seems like quite a fine individual.)