November 12th, 2025
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- Film: I watched a documentary, The Golden Spurtle, about the international porridge making championship held annually for the last 30+ years in Carrbridge village in the Scottish Highlands, and the film is an ideal combination of quirky Scottish villagers, international porridge-cooking contestants, and Australian filmmakers. 5/5 would watch again.

- Film: on 11-11-25 at 11am I saw Alan Bennett the Musical, sorry, I mean The Choral, which is about a northern English choral society in 1916. It tackles some (still) controversial themes, mostly class related, but also manages to comfortably embrace cliches such as The Scene Where Everyone Sings and, of course, Let's Do The Show Right Here. The themes are outsourcing of labour by the English ruling classes: the hardest and most dangerous physical labour historically demanded from the white working class, the emotional and sexual labour expected from women, and interestingly the outsourcing of conscience to homosexuals and non-white people. I have to admire Bennett's enduring passion for satirising hypocrisy, and his ability to be simultaneously amusing and devastating. My only reservation is the character assassination of Edward Elgar but I took that more as social commentary about selling one's soul to The Establishment in exchange for "honours", which Bennett has earned the right to make due to turning down at least two we know of including a knighthood. 4/5 but once was enough.

Quote of the film is itself a quotation: “A man should hear a little music, read a little poetry, and see a fine picture every day of his life, in order that worldly cares may not obliterate the sense of the beautiful [...]” - well-known German person Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

- Pleasing occurrences: Mr Crepehanger Radiographer who did my scan can kiss my optimist ring cos my next neurology appointment has been adjusted from only a two month gap to the more usual three. \o/

- Accountability catch-up )
November 11th, 2025
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Mood:: 'amused' amused
minoanmiss: Minoan girl lineart by me (Minoan chippie)
Mood:: 'annoyed' annoyed
minoanmiss: Minoan lady holding recursive portrait (Recursion)
AAM was exciting recently!

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posted by [personal profile] spiralsheep at 02:39pm on 11/11/2025 under ,
Armistice, by Paul Dehn*

It is finished. The enormous dust-cloud over Europe
Lifts like a million swallows; and a light,
Drifting in craters, touches the quiet dead.

Now, at the bugle’s hour, before the blood
Cakes in a clean wind on their marble faces,
Making them monuments; before the sun,

Hung like a medal on the smoky noon,
Whitens the bone that feeds the earth; before
Wheat-ear springs green again, in the green spring

And they are bread in the bodies of the young:
Be strong to remember how the bread died, screaming;
Gangrene was corn, and monuments went mad.

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* Yes, the same Paul Dehn as Mrs Ravoon - he had quite the range.
November 7th, 2025
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November 6th, 2025
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November 2nd, 2025
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- Current reading quote: This is the season of ghosts. Their pale forms are invisible in bright sunlight. Winter makes them clear again.

- Pleasing occurrences: visited three different public lending libraries this week - all at least twice.

- Habitat )
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https://www.mercurynews.com/2025/11/01/asking-eric-thomas-traumatic-socks/

Dear Eric: My husband of more than 20 years gives me slipper socks with grippy soles. I hate them!

We live in a hot climate, so I have little use for them. They filled up my sock drawer and retraumatized me every time I touched them. I threw them away and they came back.

He gave me five more pairs at Christmas. They can’t be worn with shoes or out in public. They are synthetic so I cannot even use them to polish the furniture. I kept them for animal first aid.

I cannot be cool about these socks. They remind me of the horrible time I had in the hospital having emergency surgery. My husband couldn’t even manage to hug me or talk with me before my surgery.

I’m trying very hard to be graceful and grateful for any gift from my husband, but I want to throw these at him. He knows darn well I dislike them but has given them repeatedly to me. I have to use my good fabric shears to slice them up or he will “rescue them” from the garbage.

Is there a graceful way to handle the next installment of fluffy grippy socks? I tried to no avail telling him I get my grippy socks the old-fashioned way – at the hospital, in person!

– Sock Drawer Full

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November 1st, 2025
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posted by [personal profile] conuly in [community profile] agonyaunt at 07:39pm on 01/11/2025
Dear Carolyn: When the most important person in my life died in an accident, a friend never even bothered to say how sorry she was, despite many opportunities — the wake, dinner together, etc. She grilled me on the horrid circumstances of the accident instead.

I refused to meet with her again because it upset me so much, but our families are still close, especially our sons.
I put her complete lack of empathy down to her stupidity and lack of education but really thought the base reason was that she’d never experienced such grief.

Now, five years later, her husband has died at a young age. He was a friend also, and we are attending the funeral.
Is it okay for me to treat her the same way she treated me? It would give me a sense of closure not to have to say to her, “I’m sorry for your loss.” After all, those words never left her mouth when I was living my nightmare. I wouldn’t stoop to asking about the death’s details, but I’d give my sincerest condolences only to her sons.


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posted by [personal profile] conuly in [community profile] agonyaunt at 04:28pm on 01/11/2025
DEAR ABBY: My 11-year-old daughter, "Emma," has a group of six to eight friends she has played with at school, in scouts, parties, etc., for more than three years. Eight months ago, one of the girls, "Charlotte," had a sleepover, and Emma was not invited. She was very hurt and cried. I told her she would not always be invited to everything and maybe there was a limit Charlotte could invite.

Since then, whenever there is an event that Emma knows Charlotte will be at, my daughter refuses to go. For eight months she has purposely skipped some parties and scouting events. Otherwise, they all seem to still hang together at school. How can I help my daughter understand she is only hurting herself? -- EMPATHETIC MOM IN OHIO


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posted by [personal profile] conuly in [community profile] agonyaunt at 04:22pm on 01/11/2025
Dear Annie: My daughter-in-law never forgives or forgets anything that's happened in her 13 years of marriage to my son. As a result, she punishes us by keeping us from our grandchildren, who love us dearly. Sometimes my son FaceTimes with us when she's not home, but otherwise, we can go three to four months without seeing our grandkids if we say even one word or make one expression she doesn't like.

To avoid fights, my son just goes along with it. This year, I wasn't even allowed to see my granddaughter for her birthday. I cry all the time because at my age, I may not have many years left with them.

It feels like our daughter-in-law doesn't have a heart. We may not be perfect, but why can't she understand that the kids are the ones who suffer most by the distance she creates? -- Locked-Out Grandma


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posted by [personal profile] conuly in [community profile] agonyaunt at 04:16pm on 01/11/2025
DEAR HARRIETTE: I think my son may be harboring some resentment toward me. We have a strained relationship, and even though I want us to be closer, the distance seems intentional on his end. If I try asking questions, he gets defensive or gives short responses only, and sometimes it turns into an argument or disagreement. On more than one occasion, he's referenced times in the past where I might've overstepped a boundary, spoken up on his behalf or been overbearing. How can I move forward with my son if he won't forgive me for the past? I wish he could realize that those things I did were just a mama bear looking out for her cub. -- Boy Mom

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